The start of a new school can bring about social, emotional and academic challenges for children. In this month’s mentor article, we will explore why some of these challenges may arise, ways to recognize patterns/changes and ways to support a child who may be struggling. Recognizing that there has been changes allows us to intervene and provide supports for children struggling that are all too common.

The start of a new school year brings sudden changes in daily routines, sometimes unfamiliar social groups, and higher performance expectations. Shifting from the freedom of summer back into the routine of the school year can be overwhelming and overload a child’s nervous system. Adjusting to a different sleep routine with bedtimes and wake up times can lead to physical fatigue. This can be accompanied by a feeling of loss of personal freedom with set timetables in place once again. When this stress accumulates children will often exhibit feelings of anger, overwhelm and withdrawal that can feel beyond their ability to cope with.

Social changes also take time to adjust to and can be challenging at the start of a new school year. There can be unfamiliar teachers, students and schedules that all take time to adjust to. Something that may seem simple such as a change in who is in your lunch time and in your classes can create friendship fears. “Who will I sit with at lunch?’, “Will I like my new teachers?” Social circles and peer changes can cause heavy anxiety, particularly when social and coping skills are not fully developed. It’s important to remember that school age children are very concerned with fitting in and being accepted by their peers. When friendship challenges arise big emotions often accompany them.

Transitional periods such as going from elementary school to middle school as well going from middle school to high school can also pose challenges. These transitions come with higher academic expectations and responsibilities. You may notice changes in school attendance, homework and academic performance. Lessons get harder, and expectations from new teachers ramp up compared to the previous grade. Children can experience performance worry such as fear of failing tests, falling behind, or not pleasing parents and teachers which creates intense pressure.

As the school year progresses there are signs to watch for, particularly with regards to mental health that may indicate that a child is struggling. Signs to watch for may include:

  • Increased sadness, worry, irritability, or emotional sensitivity
  • Changes in sleep, appetite, or energy
  • Loss of interest in activities they normally enjoy
  • Frequent physical complaints, such as headaches or stomachaches
  • Difficulty concentrating or seeming unusually overwhelmed
  • Signs that stress is interfering with daily life

There can also be behavioral signs/changes to look for such as:

  • Sudden withdrawal from family or friends
  • Increased anger, defiance, or emotional outbursts
  • Changes in school attendance, homework, or academic performance
  • Avoiding school, extracurricular activities, or social situations
  • New difficulties with routines or responsibilities
  • Distinguishing normal adjustment from persistent or escalating changes

Addressing these concerns starts with communication and creating a safe space to talk. One way to start a conversation without making your child feel pressured is by using open-ended, nonjudgmental questions. It can be helpful to listen, rather than giving immediate solutions. Minimal encouragers such as “mmhmm”, “tell me more” and head nods can go a long to showing that you’re actively listening. Pay attention to what children communicate through tone, behavior, and body language. Communication is not just in words said. It’s also helpful to make regular check-ins part of the school year routine. Do not underestimate the power of connection, patience and consistency at home.

There may be times when getting other adults and professionals can be helpful. Talk with teachers, school counselors, or other trusted adults when appropriate. They may be able to offer insight from a school perspective that we may not notice at home. They may also be sources of support in school that you can encourage your child to seek support from as needed. Additional supports may be available such as 504 plan or individualized education plan (IEP) depending on the needs of the child. IEPs and 504 plans can offer supports in and out of the classroom to support children academically, socially and emotionally. Consider professional support when concerns persist or significantly affect daily functioning. Professional supports such as counseling can provide a safe space for children to share their thoughts and feelings, as well as providing an added layer of support.

The start of a new school year is a significant transition for children and can bring a variety of social, emotional, and academic challenges. By recognizing changes in behavior, mood, routines, and functioning, adults can better understand what a child may be communicating through their behavior. Creating opportunities for open communication, consistent connection, and supportive routines can help children feel safe and supported as they adjust. When additional concerns arise, involving teachers, school supports, or mental health professionals can provide children with the resources they need to thrive. Ultimately, patience, compassion, and understanding can make a meaningful difference in helping children navigate the challenges of a new school year. If your child is struggling know that our EAP team is here and ready to help. You can reach out to us at 518-465-3813 to connect with our intake team, who can help you set up an appointment.

Written by: Meryl Tremblay, LMSW, EAP Clinician