Often, we go through transitions where we must take on new roles, responsibilities and relationships. These transitions can be met with feelings of joy and excitement as we enter a new phase. However, during the excitement, it can be hard to handle the pressure and intimidation of stepping into a new role. The overwhelming pressure can bring feelings of doubt or inadequacy, impacting our self-esteem which is an essential aspect of our mental health. Our self-esteem consists of how we view our inner worth. It is influenced by our past experiences and perpetuated by our interpretation of present circumstances. Self-esteem helps to increase our confidence and motivation to thrive in our relationships, work and well-being.
A major factor that influences our self-esteem is changes in our environment. For example, recent college graduates or new employees can have their self-esteem impacted due to difficulties in navigating new roles and relationships. These individuals often compare themselves to more experienced coworkers and think their skills are not sufficient for their role. This unhealthy comparison can lead to imposter syndrome, which occurs when a person has severe doubts in their abilities despite evidence of success. Imposter syndrome can make us feel incompetent in our environments, which leads to decreased self-esteem and a lack of motivation to carry out responsibilities.
However, there are tools to help increase self-esteem when experiencing imposter syndrome. To start, individuals can take the time to identify personal strengths. Strengths go beyond the skillset you show at work but can also include personality traits that are unique to you. Identifying and listing these strengths can serve as a reminder to oneself of the unique value they have cultivated and bring to the environment. Here is a guide to help you explore strengths that you may be aligned with.
Secondly, considering prior accomplishments can help build confidence when entering new roles. These achievements can go beyond what society defines as “big,” like a college degree or a new job, but also the “small” achievements like completing a personal project, having a courageous conversation or doing activities that you love. What is vital is remembering achievements as evidence that boost confidence.
Finally, incorporating self-compassion can help foster inner kindness and understanding for present circumstances. For example, reciting positive affirmations to oneself can decrease the intense judgment by offering a positive self-image. Self-compassion also decreases the need for perfectionism, as it allows there to be room for mistakes, which is a contributing factor to having a low self-esteem. Instead, individuals can adopt an acceptance mindset by providing a realistic view of present circumstances and future hopes.
Building up one’s self-esteem is a process that is difficult to do alone, which is why Capital EAP is here to give you the tools to help. If you find yourself having difficulties with your self-esteem, you can call our intake team at 518-465-3813 to start working with a counselor.
By: Judeson Luctamar, MHC Intern