Summer brings sun, freedom, and often split custody schedules that need careful coordination. Whether you share time weekly, biweekly, or on a 2-2-3 rotation, the key is clear, low-conflict communication from the start. Use a shared online calendar or co-parenting app like AppClose, to record pick-up/drop-off times, school breaks, and special events so everyone knows exactly where the kids should be.
Vacation Planning
Planning trips requires extra teamwork. Decide well in advance which weeks belong to each parent and agree on transportation, packing lists, and emergency contacts. If one parent’s vacation overlaps the other’s time, consider swapping weeks or offering extra weekend time to keep things fair. Confirm all arrangements in writing to prevent misunderstandings.
Parallel Parenting
When direct interaction leads to tension, parallel parenting can help maintain stability for the kids. Keep communication focused strictly on logistics for example, focus on pick-up times, medical needs, and schedules, using emails or texts rather than face-to-face conversations. This minimizes conflict while ensuring that essential information flows smoothly.
Healthy, Low-Conflict Communication
Aim for respectful, solution-oriented messages. Start exchanges with a neutral greeting (“Hi [Name], hope you’re well”) and stick to “I” statements (“I’d like to confirm that I’ll have the kids July 10–17”). Avoid blaming or emotional language, even in tricky situations. If needed, enlist a mediator or therapist for guided discussions.
By planning ahead, setting clear boundaries, and focusing solely on the children’s needs, co-parents can navigate summer schedules with confidence, ensuring that vacation days are fun, not stressful. If you would like to connect with Capital EAP to help you navigate the co-parenting experience, we would love to be of assistance. You can reach out to us at 518-465-3813 to contact a member of our intake team to help you start your journey.
By Denelle Abel, LMHC, EAP Clinical Supervisor