Change is an inevitable part of life, yet it often brings discomfort, uncertainty, and resistance. Whether it’s starting a new school year, adjusting to a different routine, or facing a major life change, the ability to navigate transitions with resilience is crucial. This article explores practical strategies for building resilience, focusing on how parents can help their children—and themselves—embrace change with confidence.

Understanding Resistance to Change

Resistance to change is a natural response rooted in our desire for stability and predictability. For children, this resistance can manifest as anxiety, behavioral issues, or withdrawal, especially during significant transitions like starting a new school year or moving to a different environment. For adults, it might present as procrastination, avoidance, or heightened stress.

The Importance of Building Resilience

Resilience is the ability to adapt to change and bounce back from challenges. It’s not about eliminating discomfort but learning to manage and grow from it. Building resilience helps individuals, regardless of age, approach transitions with a positive mindset, reducing the emotional and psychological toll that change can bring.

Tips for Parents: Helping Children Navigate Transitions

  1. Prepare in Advance: Give children ample time to adjust to upcoming changes. Discuss what they can expect, and answer any questions they might have. For example, before the school year starts, visit the school even if you only have access to the outside this helps to familiarize your child with their new environment.
  2. Create a Routine: Establishing a consistent routine provides a sense of security. For back-to-school transitions, gradually shift bedtime and wake-up times to match the school schedule. This helps ease the transition from a relaxed summer routine to a more structured school day.
  3. Encourage Open Communication: Create a safe space for children to express their fears, concerns, or excitement about the change. Listen actively and validate their feelings, helping them process their emotions.
  4. Model Resilience: Children learn by observing. Demonstrate your own resilience by sharing how you cope with changes in your life. Show them that it’s okay to feel uncertain but also emphasize the importance of staying positive and flexible.
  5. Focus on the Positive: Highlight the exciting aspects of the change. For example, when preparing for a new school year, talk about the new friends they’ll make, the fun activities they’ll participate in, and the new things they’ll learn.
  6. Problem-Solving Together: Involve your child in planning for the change. Whether it’s choosing school supplies, planning the first-day outfit, or setting goals for the year, giving them a sense of control can reduce anxiety.

Building Resilience for Adults: Embracing Personal Transitions

Transitions aren’t just challenging for children; adults also face difficulties when adapting to change. Whether it’s a career shift, a move, or adjusting to new family dynamics, these tips can help build resilience:

  1. Acknowledge Your Feelings: Recognize and accept your emotions about the change. It’s normal to feel uncertain or apprehensive, but pushing those feelings aside can hinder your ability to adapt.
  2. Break it Down: Large changes can feel overwhelming. Break the transition into smaller, manageable steps, and tackle them one at a time. Celebrate small victories along the way to build momentum.
  3. Seek Support: Don’t hesitate to lean on your support system. Whether it’s friends, family, or a counselor, talking through your concerns and getting feedback can provide clarity and reassurance.
  4. Stay Flexible: Resilience involves being open to new possibilities. Stay adaptable and willing to adjust your plans as needed. Remember, it’s okay to change course if something isn’t working.
  5. Practice Self-Care: Transition periods can be stressful, so prioritize self-care. Ensure you’re getting enough rest, eating well, and engaging in activities that bring you joy and relaxation.

Building Resilience: A Lifelong Skill

Resilience isn’t something we’re born with; it’s a skill that can be developed over time. By equipping ourselves and our children with the tools to navigate transitions, we create a foundation for growth and adaptability in an ever-changing world.

Remember that change can be daunting, but it also offers opportunities for growth and learning. By building resilience, we can face transitions with a sense of empowerment and optimism, knowing that we have the strength to navigate whatever comes our way. If you are navigating a change and you would like assistance on how to overcome barriers that you may be experiencing we would love to help. You can reach out to us at 518.465.3813 to connect with our intake team to set up an appointment to use your free EAP benefits.

By: Denelle Abel, LMHC-SAP, EAP Clinical Supervisor