As we move into Pride Month it would be remiss to not talk about the all too real struggle of queer burnout in the age of corporate pride. Queer burnout is a specific type of burnout where the exhaustion is caused by the reality of navigating life as a queer person. This month’s mentor article will aim to explore queer burnout as a separate concept from “classic” burnout to shed light on queer burnout and ways it can impact members of the LGBTQIA+ community.

What is Queer Burnout?

If the classic work burnout is the state of exhaustion that stems from living in a toxic work culture, Queer burnout is the state of exhaustion that stems from living in a heterocisnormative culture (source: Tall Tree Psychology). Both workplace burnout and queer burnout can stem from both environmental and external factors however when talking about queer burnout, navigating every day life can feel like a challenge due to unfair treatments and inequities queer folks face in daily life. Burnout does not just occur in the workplace. For members of the LGBTQIA+ community it can become an identity issue and an emotional labor.

What Contributes to Queer Burnout?

Factors that can contribute to queer burnout include but are not limited to:

  • inequities
  • unfair treatment
  • lack of appreciation
  • lack of supportive relationships
  • unrealistic expectations

How Passive Allyship Adds to Burnout

Queer burnout can also be exacerbated by passive allyship. Passive allyship involves supporting a cause or group by verbally agreeing or expressing solidarity, but without taking concrete actions or actively engaging in the fight for change. It’s about acknowledging the need for change without actively participating in the movement.

True allyship involves actively working alongside LGBTQIA+ individuals to achieve equality and justice, rather than simply being supportive from the sidelines.

By recognizing the impact of passive allyship and working towards genuine allyship, we can help reduce queer burnout and create a more supportive and inclusive environment for LGBTQIA+ individuals.

Ways Passive Allyship Contributes to Burnout:

  • Lack of Active Support: When allies don’t take action, LGBTQIA+ individuals may feel unsupported and alone in their fight for equality and justice.
  • Increased Responsibility: LGBTQIA+ individuals may feel burdened with the responsibility of educating and advocating for themselves and the community, while their allies remain passive.
  • Feeling of Isolation: The lack of active support from allies can lead to feelings of isolation and loneliness, especially in environments where LGBTQIA+ individuals are not openly accepted.
  • Emotional and Mental Exhaustion: The constant need to educate and advocate, coupled with the lack of support from allies, can be emotionally and mentally exhausting.
Recognizing and Addressing Passive Allyship: 

  • Shift from Passive to Active: Allies should actively engage in advocacy, education, and speaking out against discrimination.
  • Listen and Amplify: LGBTQIA+ voices should be heard and amplified, with allies actively supporting their narratives and experiences.
  • Take Action: Allies should take concrete actions to support LGBTQIA+ rights and equality, such as donating to relevant organizations or advocating for inclusive policies.
  • Challenge Performative Actions: Allies should be mindful of performative allyship and strive for genuine commitment and action.
  • Hold Themselves Accountable: Allies should be open to feedback and willing to learn from their mistakes.

A Note on Microagressions

In a survey published in 2024 by the International Journal of Transgender Health, results indicated that 62.71% of trans and gender-diverse people have experienced microaggressions in the workplace. A common microaggression experienced by members of the LGBTQIA+ is the use of public restrooms and being told you’re not allowed or don’t belong in certain bathrooms. Another example of a microaggression is lack of representation and misrepresentation. Often members of the LGBTQIA+ population are not represented in things such as brochures, ads and in the workplace.  It can be extremely helpful if you are in an environment that has people of all type but this is often not the case. Being able to see yourself represented is important.

If you or someone you know is struggling with mental health challenges due to sexual orientation, gender identity and expression or could benefit from support and education our counselors at Capital EAP are ready and available to help guide you on this journey. You can reach out to us at 518-465-3813 to connect with our intake team, who can help you set up an appointment.

By: Meryl Tremblay, LMSW, EAP Counselor