You Feel Me?

roman-kraft-119841In the classic Broadway show “Fiddler on the Roof”, Tevye asks his wife, Golde, “Do you love me?” She answers with a long list of all the things she has done for him over the 25 years they’ve been married. He asks her again and again, and finally she replies that she does love him. Together they sing, “After 25 years, it’s nice to know.”

In order to make myself understood by ...

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Domestic Violence Awareness Month


The month of October is dedicated to raising awareness about domestic violence and abuse. The National Domestic Violence Hotline defines Domestic Violence (also called intimate partner violence) as “a pattern of behaviors used by one partner to maintain power and control over another partner in an intimate relationship.” Domestic violence includes physical, sexual and emotional abuse as well as making threats and using intimidation. Domestic violence may be more common than ...

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The Love Comes First

As the year went by I watched a gradual transformation occur. Bit by bit my friend restored every inch of that car. As we faced final exams that year, my friend arrived in what had become a shining, rumbling, teenage automotive dream. It was as beautiful as the image he had described in the fall.

What I’ve learned from that experience is that the love comes first. That car looked like a disaster to me. He loved it, saw the possibilities ...

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Anxiety & Depression: The Psychology of Infertility

Erin O’Neill, LCSW-R

infertility-depressionApril 19-25 is National Infertility Awareness Week and we at Capital Counseling felt it was important to share information about some of the stressors that persons with Infertility might experience. With 1 in 8 couples (or 12% of married women) having trouble getting pregnant or sustaining a pregnancy, infertility is not uncommon. Moreover, studies have shown that more than half (53.8%) ...

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Conflict in the Successful Relationship

Successful RelationshipsIf maintaining a happy and fulfilling relationship were easy then 40%–50% of all first marriages, and 60% of second marriages, wouldn’t end in divorce. Moreover, divorce is not an inevitable outcome from an unhappy marriage. The percentages of those that say they are “unhappy” in their relationship are even higher. Unmarried couples, not having the same social and legal constraints, walk away ...

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What Are You Trying To Say?

Better Communication for Better Relationships

Sometimes, the most basic things can mess up something we’re trying to do. Whether you are trying to bake a cake or build a bookcase, the wrong materials or the wrong tools can derail the whole effort.

Relationships are a lot like that as well: sometimes the most basic things, done incorrectly or not done at all, can have a serious negative ...

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Who Gets The Luigi’s Restaurant?

When couples split, few parts of the process are more painful, or can be more contentious, than the division of property. “When couples break up,” says Phil Rainer, LCSW-R, Clinical Director of Capital EAP’s counseling division, “depending upon the length and depth of the relationship, they may have to effectively divide their universe. This can include everything from the silverware to friends…and even places.”

While there are numerous guides ...

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Recognizing An Abusive Relationship

It is a sad fact, but abusive relationships come in all shapes and varieties. While we rightly see and hear more and more attention being focused on physical manifestations of domestic violence, abuse does not have to be physical. It can be mental and emotional as well: just because there are no physical bruises, does not mean that there is no abuse.

Abuse is any repeated or sustained pattern ...

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Mending A Relationship After An Affair

Many things – financial crises, the death or severe injury of a child, differing career trajectories- can put a severe strain on a relationship. But there is nothing that causes the intense emotional pain that is triggered by the discovery that one of the partners has had an affair. This is because infidelity undermines the very foundation of the relationship: the trust between two people, and their sense ...

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